Shortening Refractory Period: 5 Effective Tantra Practices for More Pleasure & Stamina
- Sandra Sauter
- Mar 21
- 5 min read
Do you want to improve your lover qualities and pleasure your partner more often and for longer with the help of proven Tantra practices? Tantra offers various approaches that can help you become more enduring.
The refractory period refers to the phase after orgasm during which re-arousal or erection is not possible.
The refractory period varies individually. While it lasts only a few minutes for some men, it can last hours or even days for others.
It also depends on what Lingam type you are. If this topic interests you, my talk on 'Shamanic Sexuality - The 9 Genital Types According to Quodoushka' could be of interest. Currently, the lecture is only available in German, I’m sorry.
Tantra offers valuable techniques and practices to shorten the recovery phase and consciously manage sexual energy. Below, you'll learn how you can increase your sexual stamina with effective Tantra practices.
Table of Contents
1. Lingam Massage & Energetic Stimulation
A tantric Lingam massage is more than just an erotic touch – it can improve circulation, enhance sensitivity, and help shorten the refractory period.
"Lingam" is a Sanskrit word that literally means "sign" or "symbol."
In the tantric context, it refers to the male genital organ, but not only in a physical sense – it also includes energetic and spiritual aspects.
The Lingam is seen as an expression of masculine creative power and divine energy. Tantric traditions view the Lingam as the sacred center of life energy, deserving of mindful touch, reverence, and conscious sexuality. This perspective differs greatly from Western concepts, as it combines physicality with spirituality.
How Does This Tantra Practice Work?
The tantric massage involves slow, conscious strokes along the Lingam, combined with gentle pressure on energetic points (similar to acupressure).
Key points to focus on include:
The Perineum Point (between the anus and testicles) – This area stimulates the prostate and can help direct energy upward.
The Shaft & Glans – Instead of traditional stimulation, varying pressure and circular movements are used here.
Regular tantric massages help you develop stronger control over your arousal and recovery, ultimately shortening your refractory period.
2. Karezza & Slow Sex – Consciously Maintaining Arousal
The practice of Karezza (gentle, slow sexual union without focusing on orgasm) and Slow Sex can help shorten the refractory period by promoting the release of prolactin-inhibiting hormones.
What are Prolactin-Inhibiting Hormones?
Prolactin-inhibiting hormones are substances that reduce or block the release of the hormone prolactin in the body.
What Does Prolactin Do?
Prolactin is produced in the pituitary gland and is primarily responsible for milk production after childbirth. However, it also plays a role in sexual response, particularly in the refractory period – the recovery phase after orgasm, during which re-arousal is not possible.
Which Hormones Inhibit Prolactin?
Dopamine – The most important natural inhibitor of prolactin. When dopamine levels rise in the body, less prolactin is released.
Testosterone – Can indirectly lower prolactin levels.
Thyroxine (T4) – A thyroid hormone, which is often low in cases of hypothyroidism, leading to increased prolactin levels.
Why is this Relevant for Sexuality?
Since high prolactin levels are associated with longer recovery periods after orgasm, reducing prolactin can help shorten the refractory period and make it easier to become aroused again. Tantra practices often aim to increase dopamine levels, helping to maintain sexual energy for longer periods.
How Do Karezza & Slow Sex Work?
Instead of fast movements, the focus is placed on a deep, conscious connection.
Breathing, eye contact, and touch play a central role.
The man remains in a high state of arousal without crossing the threshold to ejaculation.
Karezza & Slow Sex teach the body to lose less energy after orgasm and become aroused again more quickly. Slow Sex is by no means boring.
On the contrary: From the interplay of Yin (coming into stillness and feeling) and Yang (building arousal through breath, movement, rhythm, and sounds), a deep connection is created between two people, which lasts long after the union. Here you can learn more about the 4 keys to pleasure.
For Slow Sex, an erection is not necessarily required, but it does require practice and a lot of lubricant to introduce a non-erect genital into the Yoni.
3. Pelvic Floor Training (Mula Bandha & Kegel Exercises)
A trained pelvic floor not only improves control over ejaculation but also promotes blood circulation, thus shortening the refractory period.
How does pelvic floor training work?
Mula Bandha: A tantric practice where the pelvic floor is consciously contracted, and the energy is drawn upward.
Kegel Exercises: The conscious contraction of the PC muscle (similar to holding back the urine stream) strengthens the pelvic floor muscles.
Combination with Breathing: While the muscle is contracted, inhale deeply into the abdomen and exhale slowly.
Regular practice of this Tantra exercise improves recovery ability and increases arousability after orgasm. It's definitely worth sticking with it.
4. Cultivating Arousal Without Ejaculation
In Tantra, the focus is on consciously directing sexual energy instead of losing it through ejaculation. A proven method for this is the so-called "Upward Energy Movement."
How does cultivating arousal without ejaculation work?
While aroused, consciously breathe deeply and direct the energy upward through the body.
Contract the pelvic floor when the climax approaches to redirect the flow of energy.
After orgasm, stay in a deeply relaxed position and continue breathing to shorten the recovery phase.
By practicing these Tantra exercises, more energy remains in the body, and the arousal can be rebuilt more quickly.
5. Conscious Breathing Techniques (Fire Breath & Connected Breath)
Breathing techniques in Tantra help shorten the refractory period by regulating the nervous system and distributing energy throughout the body.
How do these Tantra exercises work?
Fire Breath (Bhastrika): Breathe rapidly and rhythmically through the nose to increase circulation and stimulate energy flow.
Connected Breathing: Take deep, continuous breaths without pauses to hold energy within the body.
Breathing During Climax: Slow, conscious breathing before and after orgasm helps to become aroused again more quickly.
Breathing techniques activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes relaxation and faster recovery.
Conclusion: More Pleasure & Stamina Through Conscious Tantra Training
Shortening the refractory period is not a myth – with the right Tantra practices, you can consciously control your sexual energy, increase your stamina, and experience pleasure again more quickly.
Whether through Lingam massage, Slow Sex, pelvic floor training, energy work, or breathing techniques – all of these Tantra exercises help you rediscover your sexuality and enjoy it more consciously.
Give it a try and experience how these Tantra exercises can transform your love life and shorten your refractory period! 🔥
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